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Kiss That Frog!

12 Great Ways to Turn Negatives into Positives in Your Life and Work

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On sale Mar 05, 2012 | 168 Pages | 978-1-60994-280-9
Just like the lonely princess in the fairy tale who was reluctant to lock lips with a warty frog and transform him into a handsome prince, something stops many of us short of attaining our dreams. Our negative thoughts, emotions, and attitudes can threaten to keep us from achieving all that we’re capable of. Here bestselling author and speaker Brian Tracy and his daughter, therapist Christina Tracy Stein, provide a set of practical, proven strategies anyone can use to turn those negative frogs into positive princes.

Tracy and Stein present a step-by-step plan that addresses the root causes of negativity, helps you uncover blocks that have become mental obstacles, and shows how you can transform them into stepping-stones to achieve your fullest potential. The book distills, in an accessible and immediately useful form, what Tracy has presented in more than 5,000 talks and seminars with more than five million people in fifty-eight countries and what Stein has learned through thousands of hours of counseling people from all walks of life.

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so,” the authors quote Shakespeare. The many powerful techniques and exercises in this book will help you change your mindset so that you discover something worthwhile in every person and experience, however difficult and challenging they might seem at first. You’ll learn how to develop unshakable self-confidence, become your best self, and begin living an extraordinary life.
“The moment Brian shared with me the message of his new book, I knew I had to have it, read it, and share it with my friends. I recommend you buy this book, read it, and use it—because a happier, more joyful life is just a few hours away.”
—David Bach, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Automatic Millionaire and founder of FinishRich.com

“Don’t let the funny title fool you—Kiss That Frog! could change your life. Let Brian Tracy and Christina Tracy Stein help you let go of negative thoughts that may be controlling your day-to-day attitude more than you realize. Read this book and step into a more positive future!”
—Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager® and Lead with LUV


“Brian promised that his book with the icky title would show me new ways of overcoming fears, to clear my mind of unwanted memories, and to move forward toward my dreams with forgiveness and positivity. So I kissed that frog. And it wasn’t all that bad. Actually, it was excellent. I recommend that you kiss that frog, too.”
—Robert G. Allen, author of the bestsellers Creating Wealth and Multiple Streams of Income and coauthor of The One Minute Millionaire

“A timely book that helps us focus on finding the good in another person or situation rather than finding faults or flaws. I especially liked the ‘Now Do This’ tips that help transform the book’s concepts into tangible behaviors. This book should be required reading for everyone!”
—Dr. Tony Alessandra, Hall of Fame motivational speaker, coauthor of The Platinum Rule, and author of Charisma

“Kiss That Frog
shows you how to release your unlimited potential for successful living.”
—T. Harv Eker, author of #1 New York Times bestseller Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

“Once again Brian Tracy gives us a road map of how we can turn negatives into positives and live a healthy, rewarding, and contributing life.”
—Patricia Fripp, Past President, National Speakers Association, and author of Get What You Want

“This book shows you how to let go of negatives, find the positive in every situation, and become an optimistic, high-performance person.”
—Jack Canfield, CEO, Jack Canfield Companies

“Brian Tracy has done it again! Kiss That Frog! is a classic about turning negatives into positives. Get ready for a life-changing read.”
—Pat Williams, Senior Vice President, Orlando Magic, and author of Leadership Excellence

“This wonderful, uplifting book shows you how to release negatives and become a completely positive person.”
—Harvey Mackay, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive

“If your memories of yesterday are greater than your dreams for tomorrow, read this book and watch your life turn around, and experience more joy and happiness as a result.”
—Todd Duncan, New York Times bestselling author of Time Traps

“For people who really and truly want to break free of their limitations and move toward having the life of their dreams, this is the book to read! Both thought provoking and inspiring—you owe it to yourself to read this book and utilize these great teachings!”
—John Assaraf, bestselling author and entrepreneurial coach

“Another winner from Brian Tracy! It’s a handbook for personal responsibility to achieve success. Read it. Implement what you learn. Have confidence about your future.”
—Bill Bachrach, CSP, CPAE, author of Values-Based Financial Planning and coauthor of High-Trust Leadership

“Every decade or so, an absolute gem of wisdom appears in print. Brian and Christina have cut and polished a priceless gift offering life-changing principles for success, regardless of the circumstances. They make the profound simple and the impossible doable.”
—Denis Waitley, author of Seeds of Greatness
Brian Tracy is chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International. As a keynote speaker and seminar leader, he addresses more than 250,000 people each year. He is the bestselling author of more than fifty books that have been translated into dozens of languages.
Christina Tracy Stein is a psychotherapist in private practice. She collaborates with her clients to help them create more fulfilling relationships, develop ways to handle stress and anxiety, and find greater enjoyment and satisfaction in their lives. She also works as a personal and professional development coach where she more directly facilitates her clients’ growth.
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Seven Truths About You

Your natural state is to be happy, peaceful, joyous, and full of excitement at being alive. In this natural state you wake up each morning eager to start the day. You feel wonderful about yourself and your relationships with the people in your life. You enjoy your work and derive a great sense of satisfaction from making a contribution that makes a difference. Your primary goal should be to organize your life in such a way that this is how you feel most of the time.

As a fully functioning, fully mature adult, you should be doing things every day that move you toward the fulfillment of your potential. You should feel grateful for all your blessings in every area. If you are unhappy or dissatisfied in any part of your life, something is not right in your thoughts, feelings, or actions, and it needs to be corrected.

The starting point in unlocking your full potential is to realize that you already are a prince or princess, deep down inside.

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

ABRAHAM LINCOLN

No matter where you are today, or what you have done or not done in the past, you need to accept seven essential truths about you as a person:

1. You are a thoroughly good and excellent person; valuable and worthwhile beyond measure. No one is better than you or more gifted than you.

Only when you doubt your essential goodness and value do you begin to question yourself. The inability to accept that you are a good person lies at the root of much of your discontent.

2. You are important, in many, many ways. To start with, you are important to yourself. Your personal universe revolves around you as an individual. You give meaning to everything that you see or hear. Nothing in your world has any significance except for the significance that you attribute to it.

You are also important to your parents. Your birth was a significant moment in their lives, and as you grew up, almost everything you did was meaningful to them.

You are important to your own family, to your partner or spouse, your children, and the other members of your social circle. Some of the things you do or say have an enormous impact on them.

You are important to your company, your customers, your coworkers, and your community. The things you do or don’t do can have a tremendous effect on the lives and work of others.

How important you feel largely determines the quality of your life. Happy, successful people feel important and valuable. Because they feel and act this way, it becomes true for them.

Unhappy, frustrated people feel unimportant and of little value. They feel frustrated and unworthy. They feel “I’m not good enough,” and as a result they lash out at the world and engage in behaviors that hurt themselves and others.

They don’t realize that they could be a prince or princess inside.

3. You have unlimited potential and the ability to create your life and your world as you desire. You could not use your entire potential if you lived one hundred lifetimes.

No matter what you have accomplished up to now, it is merely a hint of what is truly possible for you. And the more of your natural talents and abilities you develop in the present, the more of your potential you can develop in the future.

Your belief in your almost unlimited potential is the key to becoming everything you are truly capable of becoming.

4. You create your world in every respect by the way you think and the depth of your convictions. Your beliefs actually create your realities, and every belief you have about yourself you learned, starting in infancy. The amazing thing is that most of the negative or self-limiting beliefs and doubts that interfere with your happiness and success are not based on fact or reality at all.

When you begin to question your self-limiting beliefs and develop beliefs consistent with the incredible person you really are, your life will begin to change almost immediately.

5. You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling, uplifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by default, end up choosing negative, self-limiting thoughts that trip you up and hold you back.

Your mind is like a garden: if you do not deliberately cultivate flowers, weeds will grow automatically without any effort on your part. If you do not deliberately plant and cultivate positive thoughts, negative thoughts will grow in their place.

This simple metaphor about the garden explains why so many people are unhappy and don’t know why.

6. You are put on this earth with a great destiny: you are meant to do something wonderful with your life. You have a unique combination of talents, abilities, ideas, insights, and experiences that make you different from anyone who has ever lived. You are designed for success and engineered for greatness.

Your acceptance or nonacceptance of this point largely determines the size of the goals you set, your power of persistence in the face of adversity, the height of your achievements, and the whole direction of your life.

7. There are no limits to what you can do, be, or have except the limits you place on your own thinking and your own imagination. The biggest enemies you will ever face are your own doubts and fears. These are usually negative beliefs, not necessarily based on fact, that you have accepted over the years until you no longer question them.

As Shakespeare wrote in The Tempest, “What’s past is prologue.” Everything that has happened to you in the past has been a preparation for the wonderful life that lies ahead of you in the future.

Remember the rule: It doesn’t matter where you’re coming from; all that really matters is where you’re going.

Michelangelo’s David

In the Gallery of the Academy in Florence, Italy, stands the David, by Michelangelo, considered by many to be the most beautiful piece of sculpture in the world.

It is said that later in his life, Michelangelo was once asked how he was able to sculpt something so beautiful. He explained that he was walking to his studio one morning and he happened to glance down a side street to where a huge block of marble, brought down from the mountains some years ago, was lying, overgrown with grass and bushes.

He had walked this way many times, but this time, he stopped and examined the huge block of marble, walking around it several times. Suddenly, he realized that this was exactly what he had been seeking to create the statue that had been commissioned. He had the block brought to his studio, where he worked on it for almost four years to create the David.

As legend has it, he said later, “I saw the David in the block of marble at the very beginning. My sole job from then on was to remove everything that was not the David, until only perfection was left.”

This Is Your Story

In the same sense, you may be like the David imprisoned in the marble. The great goal of your life is to remove all those fears, doubts, insecurities, negative emotions, and false beliefs that hold you back until what remains is only the very best person you could possibly be.

Your job is to “kiss that frog” and find the positive elements that exist within every situation, to deliberately turn every negative into a positive, and to unleash the “handsome prince” in your own life.

Make a decision, right now, that you are going to unlock your full potential for success and happiness and become the extraordinary person that lies deep within you. You are going to accomplish all the wonderful things that you were put in this world to achieve. In the pages ahead, you will learn how.

NOW DO THIS

Identify the negative or self-limiting beliefs about your personal abilities or your situation that might be holding you back. Then ask yourself, “What if they weren’t true?”

What if you had all the talent and ability that you could ever need to achieve almost anything in life? What if you had no limitations? What goals would you set for yourself if you were guaranteed of success, and what would you do differently starting today?
Introduction The Frog and the Princess
Chapter 1 Seven Truths about You
Chapter 2 Imagine Your Handsome Price
Chapter 3 Look Your Frog in the Face
Chapter 4 Clear the Pond of Ugly Frogs
Chapter 5 Drain the Swamp
Chapter 6 Change the Water in Your Pond
Chapter 7 Look for the Beauty in Frogs
Chapter 8 Leap Forward Confidently
Chapter 9 Kiss Your Ugly Frogs Goodbye
Chapter 10 Expect the Best of Your Frog
Chapter 11 Let Go of Those Painful Frogs
Chapter 12 Seven Keys to a Positive Personality
Conclusion Action Is Everything
Acknowledgments
About the Authors
Additional Information

About

Just like the lonely princess in the fairy tale who was reluctant to lock lips with a warty frog and transform him into a handsome prince, something stops many of us short of attaining our dreams. Our negative thoughts, emotions, and attitudes can threaten to keep us from achieving all that we’re capable of. Here bestselling author and speaker Brian Tracy and his daughter, therapist Christina Tracy Stein, provide a set of practical, proven strategies anyone can use to turn those negative frogs into positive princes.

Tracy and Stein present a step-by-step plan that addresses the root causes of negativity, helps you uncover blocks that have become mental obstacles, and shows how you can transform them into stepping-stones to achieve your fullest potential. The book distills, in an accessible and immediately useful form, what Tracy has presented in more than 5,000 talks and seminars with more than five million people in fifty-eight countries and what Stein has learned through thousands of hours of counseling people from all walks of life.

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so,” the authors quote Shakespeare. The many powerful techniques and exercises in this book will help you change your mindset so that you discover something worthwhile in every person and experience, however difficult and challenging they might seem at first. You’ll learn how to develop unshakable self-confidence, become your best self, and begin living an extraordinary life.

Praise

“The moment Brian shared with me the message of his new book, I knew I had to have it, read it, and share it with my friends. I recommend you buy this book, read it, and use it—because a happier, more joyful life is just a few hours away.”
—David Bach, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Automatic Millionaire and founder of FinishRich.com

“Don’t let the funny title fool you—Kiss That Frog! could change your life. Let Brian Tracy and Christina Tracy Stein help you let go of negative thoughts that may be controlling your day-to-day attitude more than you realize. Read this book and step into a more positive future!”
—Ken Blanchard, coauthor of The One Minute Manager® and Lead with LUV


“Brian promised that his book with the icky title would show me new ways of overcoming fears, to clear my mind of unwanted memories, and to move forward toward my dreams with forgiveness and positivity. So I kissed that frog. And it wasn’t all that bad. Actually, it was excellent. I recommend that you kiss that frog, too.”
—Robert G. Allen, author of the bestsellers Creating Wealth and Multiple Streams of Income and coauthor of The One Minute Millionaire

“A timely book that helps us focus on finding the good in another person or situation rather than finding faults or flaws. I especially liked the ‘Now Do This’ tips that help transform the book’s concepts into tangible behaviors. This book should be required reading for everyone!”
—Dr. Tony Alessandra, Hall of Fame motivational speaker, coauthor of The Platinum Rule, and author of Charisma

“Kiss That Frog
shows you how to release your unlimited potential for successful living.”
—T. Harv Eker, author of #1 New York Times bestseller Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

“Once again Brian Tracy gives us a road map of how we can turn negatives into positives and live a healthy, rewarding, and contributing life.”
—Patricia Fripp, Past President, National Speakers Association, and author of Get What You Want

“This book shows you how to let go of negatives, find the positive in every situation, and become an optimistic, high-performance person.”
—Jack Canfield, CEO, Jack Canfield Companies

“Brian Tracy has done it again! Kiss That Frog! is a classic about turning negatives into positives. Get ready for a life-changing read.”
—Pat Williams, Senior Vice President, Orlando Magic, and author of Leadership Excellence

“This wonderful, uplifting book shows you how to release negatives and become a completely positive person.”
—Harvey Mackay, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive

“If your memories of yesterday are greater than your dreams for tomorrow, read this book and watch your life turn around, and experience more joy and happiness as a result.”
—Todd Duncan, New York Times bestselling author of Time Traps

“For people who really and truly want to break free of their limitations and move toward having the life of their dreams, this is the book to read! Both thought provoking and inspiring—you owe it to yourself to read this book and utilize these great teachings!”
—John Assaraf, bestselling author and entrepreneurial coach

“Another winner from Brian Tracy! It’s a handbook for personal responsibility to achieve success. Read it. Implement what you learn. Have confidence about your future.”
—Bill Bachrach, CSP, CPAE, author of Values-Based Financial Planning and coauthor of High-Trust Leadership

“Every decade or so, an absolute gem of wisdom appears in print. Brian and Christina have cut and polished a priceless gift offering life-changing principles for success, regardless of the circumstances. They make the profound simple and the impossible doable.”
—Denis Waitley, author of Seeds of Greatness

Author

Brian Tracy is chairman and CEO of Brian Tracy International. As a keynote speaker and seminar leader, he addresses more than 250,000 people each year. He is the bestselling author of more than fifty books that have been translated into dozens of languages.
Christina Tracy Stein is a psychotherapist in private practice. She collaborates with her clients to help them create more fulfilling relationships, develop ways to handle stress and anxiety, and find greater enjoyment and satisfaction in their lives. She also works as a personal and professional development coach where she more directly facilitates her clients’ growth.
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Excerpt

Seven Truths About You

Your natural state is to be happy, peaceful, joyous, and full of excitement at being alive. In this natural state you wake up each morning eager to start the day. You feel wonderful about yourself and your relationships with the people in your life. You enjoy your work and derive a great sense of satisfaction from making a contribution that makes a difference. Your primary goal should be to organize your life in such a way that this is how you feel most of the time.

As a fully functioning, fully mature adult, you should be doing things every day that move you toward the fulfillment of your potential. You should feel grateful for all your blessings in every area. If you are unhappy or dissatisfied in any part of your life, something is not right in your thoughts, feelings, or actions, and it needs to be corrected.

The starting point in unlocking your full potential is to realize that you already are a prince or princess, deep down inside.

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

ABRAHAM LINCOLN

No matter where you are today, or what you have done or not done in the past, you need to accept seven essential truths about you as a person:

1. You are a thoroughly good and excellent person; valuable and worthwhile beyond measure. No one is better than you or more gifted than you.

Only when you doubt your essential goodness and value do you begin to question yourself. The inability to accept that you are a good person lies at the root of much of your discontent.

2. You are important, in many, many ways. To start with, you are important to yourself. Your personal universe revolves around you as an individual. You give meaning to everything that you see or hear. Nothing in your world has any significance except for the significance that you attribute to it.

You are also important to your parents. Your birth was a significant moment in their lives, and as you grew up, almost everything you did was meaningful to them.

You are important to your own family, to your partner or spouse, your children, and the other members of your social circle. Some of the things you do or say have an enormous impact on them.

You are important to your company, your customers, your coworkers, and your community. The things you do or don’t do can have a tremendous effect on the lives and work of others.

How important you feel largely determines the quality of your life. Happy, successful people feel important and valuable. Because they feel and act this way, it becomes true for them.

Unhappy, frustrated people feel unimportant and of little value. They feel frustrated and unworthy. They feel “I’m not good enough,” and as a result they lash out at the world and engage in behaviors that hurt themselves and others.

They don’t realize that they could be a prince or princess inside.

3. You have unlimited potential and the ability to create your life and your world as you desire. You could not use your entire potential if you lived one hundred lifetimes.

No matter what you have accomplished up to now, it is merely a hint of what is truly possible for you. And the more of your natural talents and abilities you develop in the present, the more of your potential you can develop in the future.

Your belief in your almost unlimited potential is the key to becoming everything you are truly capable of becoming.

4. You create your world in every respect by the way you think and the depth of your convictions. Your beliefs actually create your realities, and every belief you have about yourself you learned, starting in infancy. The amazing thing is that most of the negative or self-limiting beliefs and doubts that interfere with your happiness and success are not based on fact or reality at all.

When you begin to question your self-limiting beliefs and develop beliefs consistent with the incredible person you really are, your life will begin to change almost immediately.

5. You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling, uplifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by default, end up choosing negative, self-limiting thoughts that trip you up and hold you back.

Your mind is like a garden: if you do not deliberately cultivate flowers, weeds will grow automatically without any effort on your part. If you do not deliberately plant and cultivate positive thoughts, negative thoughts will grow in their place.

This simple metaphor about the garden explains why so many people are unhappy and don’t know why.

6. You are put on this earth with a great destiny: you are meant to do something wonderful with your life. You have a unique combination of talents, abilities, ideas, insights, and experiences that make you different from anyone who has ever lived. You are designed for success and engineered for greatness.

Your acceptance or nonacceptance of this point largely determines the size of the goals you set, your power of persistence in the face of adversity, the height of your achievements, and the whole direction of your life.

7. There are no limits to what you can do, be, or have except the limits you place on your own thinking and your own imagination. The biggest enemies you will ever face are your own doubts and fears. These are usually negative beliefs, not necessarily based on fact, that you have accepted over the years until you no longer question them.

As Shakespeare wrote in The Tempest, “What’s past is prologue.” Everything that has happened to you in the past has been a preparation for the wonderful life that lies ahead of you in the future.

Remember the rule: It doesn’t matter where you’re coming from; all that really matters is where you’re going.

Michelangelo’s David

In the Gallery of the Academy in Florence, Italy, stands the David, by Michelangelo, considered by many to be the most beautiful piece of sculpture in the world.

It is said that later in his life, Michelangelo was once asked how he was able to sculpt something so beautiful. He explained that he was walking to his studio one morning and he happened to glance down a side street to where a huge block of marble, brought down from the mountains some years ago, was lying, overgrown with grass and bushes.

He had walked this way many times, but this time, he stopped and examined the huge block of marble, walking around it several times. Suddenly, he realized that this was exactly what he had been seeking to create the statue that had been commissioned. He had the block brought to his studio, where he worked on it for almost four years to create the David.

As legend has it, he said later, “I saw the David in the block of marble at the very beginning. My sole job from then on was to remove everything that was not the David, until only perfection was left.”

This Is Your Story

In the same sense, you may be like the David imprisoned in the marble. The great goal of your life is to remove all those fears, doubts, insecurities, negative emotions, and false beliefs that hold you back until what remains is only the very best person you could possibly be.

Your job is to “kiss that frog” and find the positive elements that exist within every situation, to deliberately turn every negative into a positive, and to unleash the “handsome prince” in your own life.

Make a decision, right now, that you are going to unlock your full potential for success and happiness and become the extraordinary person that lies deep within you. You are going to accomplish all the wonderful things that you were put in this world to achieve. In the pages ahead, you will learn how.

NOW DO THIS

Identify the negative or self-limiting beliefs about your personal abilities or your situation that might be holding you back. Then ask yourself, “What if they weren’t true?”

What if you had all the talent and ability that you could ever need to achieve almost anything in life? What if you had no limitations? What goals would you set for yourself if you were guaranteed of success, and what would you do differently starting today?

Table of Contents

Introduction The Frog and the Princess
Chapter 1 Seven Truths about You
Chapter 2 Imagine Your Handsome Price
Chapter 3 Look Your Frog in the Face
Chapter 4 Clear the Pond of Ugly Frogs
Chapter 5 Drain the Swamp
Chapter 6 Change the Water in Your Pond
Chapter 7 Look for the Beauty in Frogs
Chapter 8 Leap Forward Confidently
Chapter 9 Kiss Your Ugly Frogs Goodbye
Chapter 10 Expect the Best of Your Frog
Chapter 11 Let Go of Those Painful Frogs
Chapter 12 Seven Keys to a Positive Personality
Conclusion Action Is Everything
Acknowledgments
About the Authors
Additional Information