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100 Ways to Say No

How to Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No

Author Nicole Monente

Hardcover

$17.99 US

Blue Star | Spruce Books

6.3"W x 7.3"H x 0.66"D | 13 oz | 36 per carton

On sale Jan 10, 2023 | 144 Pages | 9781632174437

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Do you find yourself saying yes when you really want to say no?

From the creator of the popular Instagram account Scribbles by Nicole comes this collection of funny and relatable illustrated “scenari-nos” for overcoming your inner people pleaser, setting appropriate boundaries, and getting to no.

Recognizing it's not always easy to say no, Nicole takes readers through real-life examples familiar to anyone who has found themselves saying yes when they really didn't want to, providing guidance on how to:

Say no effectively and appropriately in any situation

Use techniques that come naturally to make saying no as stress-free as possible

Fend off unwanted invitations nicely but firmly

Set healthy boundaries with loved ones, family, friends, and colleagues

Tell yourself no when you need to

Let go of guilt, worry, and regrets and do what's right for you

Everyone needs healthy boundaries—let this charming book help you set them and make learning to say no much easier.

“I will be keeping this book permanently on my desk for daily guidance!”
—Mari Andrew, New York Times–bestselling author of Am I There Yet? and My Inner Sky

“Those of us in the people-pleasing club probably know by now that we are happier, healthier humans when we protect our energy and learn to say no . . . but many of us have no idea how to actually do that. This book is filled with superpractical and useful scripts to help us navigate those situations where we cringe at the thought of (ahh!) disappointing someone. I will be keeping this book permanently on my desk for daily guidance!”
—Mari Andrew, New York Times–bestselling author of Am I There Yet? and My Inner Sky

“People pleasers everywhere will delight in saying no after reading this dazzling debut. With heartfelt illustrations, empathy for the yes-sayers, and examples for all of life’s common conflicts, 100 Ways to Say No offers a stand-alone guide to compassionately (but firmly!) setting boundaries with others and yourself.”
—Haley Weaver, creator of @HaleyDrewThis

Nicole Monente shares her musings at @scribblesbynicole, where she’s captured the hearts and minds of a significant following with her clever, introspective, and ultra-relatable drawings. Nicole approaches heavy topics with humor, lightheartedness and insight. When she’s not doodling, Nicole can be found laughing, crying, or desperately looking for her phone to jot down her next idea before she forgets it.

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People pleasers have a hard time saying no. There are so many considerations seemingly standing in our way—social pressures and internal pressures, empathy and sympathy, attraction and temptation—not to mention power dynamics. Perceived obligations and actual obligations, presumed consequences and actual consequences . . . oh, and what about guilt? Sometimes we’re even lucky enough to experience them all at once!

Saying yes all the time is not the answer either. Learning to set boundaries—and making them stick—is hard.

People pleasers will do almost anything to avoid conflict, but at what cost? The truth is, it takes some serious training. The first step is to find your no muscle. It might be a little weak at first.

The more comfortable you become with saying it, the stronger your no muscle will get—strong enough to be tough when the circumstances call for it.

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Say no effectively and appropriately in any situation

Use techniques that come naturally to make saying no as stress-free as possible

Fend off unwanted invitations nicely but firmly

Set healthy boundaries with loved ones, family, friends, and colleagues

Tell yourself no when you need to

Let go of guilt, worry, and regrets and do what's right for you

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