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The Official It Didn't Start with You Workbook

The Companion to the Worldwide Bestseller

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On sale Dec 09, 2025 | 224 Pages | 9780593994436

The must-have companion to the million-copy bestseller, a comprehensive guide to understanding and transforming the impact of traumatic family legacies on our daily lives

Depression. Anxiety. Chronic pain. Obsessive thoughts. The roots of these difficulties may not have originated with us—but with our parents, grandparents, or even great-grandparents. As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has helped people for more than thirty years break long-standing patterns of suffering. Now you can break those patterns too: this workbook, the companion to his international bestseller It Didn’t Start with You, offers a pragmatic and easy-to-follow guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Through a series of experiential exercises, thought-provoking prompts, and practices based in neuroscience, you may discover that the symptoms you’ve suffered with your whole life are really just fragments of unresolved trauma in your family history. This workbook is a transformative experience that will teach you how to heal the past, reconnect with yourself, and reclaim your life, health, and vitality.

Some of the experiences you’ll explore on your path of self-discovery include:
  • Tracing your family history back to unresolved traumatic events.
  • Following your words, fears, symptoms and behaviors to understand your deepest emotions.
  • Exercises for healing both attachment and generational trauma.
  • Practices to release unconscious patterns of illness, emotional blocks, and destructive behavior.
  • New work that expands upon the concepts from It Didn’t Start with You to further your healing journey.
"It is a deep pleasure to welcome Mark Wolynn’s follow-up publication. In his first book (It Didn’t Start with You), he provided guidance to those suffering from hidden forces—those passed down from our ancestors affecting our lives, our health, our relationships and our capacity to find inner peace. In this new release, a well thought out workbook, he expands on his original book by providing people with practical tools and exercises to release them from the tyranny from the past. Thank you Mark for your contribution, a valuable gift to those seeking healing and personal growth."
Dr. Peter A. Levine, bestselling author of Waking the Tiger and An Autobiography of Trauma, A Healing Journey

Additional Praise for Mark Wolynn and It Didn't Start with You

“Mark Wolynn does a masterful job of illuminating the ways in which our ancestors’ unresolved suffering, often unknown to us, disables us and binds us painfully to them. He gives us the tools and skills—an approach that combines understanding, imaginative dialogues, and compassionate reconnection—to free and heal ourselves.”
—James S. Gordon, MD, author of Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey Out of Depression

It Didn’t Start with You takes us a big step forward, advancing the fields of trauma therapy, mindfulness applications, and human understanding. It is a bold, creative, and compassionate work.”
—Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness

“This groundbreaking book offers a compelling understanding of inherited trauma and fresh, powerful tools for relieving its suffering. Mark Wolynn is a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey toward healing.”
—Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

“Mark Wolynn’s extraordinary book cracks the secret code of families and proves that you can go home again—once you understand how history made you. Full of life-changing stories, powerful insights, and practical tools for personal healing, It Didn't Start With You deserves a place on your bookshelf next to Alice Miller’s The Drama of the Gifted Child and Dan Siegel’s The Developing Mind. You’ll never see your family the same way again.”
—Mark Matousek, author of Ethical Wisdom

“Bridging both neuroscience and psychodynamic thinking, It Didn’t Start with You provides the reader with Mark Wolynn’s hard-earned toolbox of do-it-yourself clinical aids and provocative insights.”
—Jess P. Shatkin, MD, MPH, Vice Chair for Education at NYU Langone Medical Center’s Child Study Center and author of Child & Adolescent Mental Health

“After reading It Didn’t Start with You, I found myself immediately able to apply Mark Wolynn’s techniques with my patients and saw incredible results, in a shorter time than with traditional psychotherapeutic techniques. I encourage you to read this book. It’s truly cutting edge.”
—Alexanndra Kreps, MD
© Dawn Hartman
Mark Wolynn is a leading expert on inherited family trauma. As the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he has trained thousands of clinicians and treated thousands more patients struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain, and illness. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. He has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. His articles have appeared in Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker. View titles by Mark Wolynn

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The must-have companion to the million-copy bestseller, a comprehensive guide to understanding and transforming the impact of traumatic family legacies on our daily lives

Depression. Anxiety. Chronic pain. Obsessive thoughts. The roots of these difficulties may not have originated with us—but with our parents, grandparents, or even great-grandparents. As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has helped people for more than thirty years break long-standing patterns of suffering. Now you can break those patterns too: this workbook, the companion to his international bestseller It Didn’t Start with You, offers a pragmatic and easy-to-follow guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Through a series of experiential exercises, thought-provoking prompts, and practices based in neuroscience, you may discover that the symptoms you’ve suffered with your whole life are really just fragments of unresolved trauma in your family history. This workbook is a transformative experience that will teach you how to heal the past, reconnect with yourself, and reclaim your life, health, and vitality.

Some of the experiences you’ll explore on your path of self-discovery include:
  • Tracing your family history back to unresolved traumatic events.
  • Following your words, fears, symptoms and behaviors to understand your deepest emotions.
  • Exercises for healing both attachment and generational trauma.
  • Practices to release unconscious patterns of illness, emotional blocks, and destructive behavior.
  • New work that expands upon the concepts from It Didn’t Start with You to further your healing journey.

Praise

"It is a deep pleasure to welcome Mark Wolynn’s follow-up publication. In his first book (It Didn’t Start with You), he provided guidance to those suffering from hidden forces—those passed down from our ancestors affecting our lives, our health, our relationships and our capacity to find inner peace. In this new release, a well thought out workbook, he expands on his original book by providing people with practical tools and exercises to release them from the tyranny from the past. Thank you Mark for your contribution, a valuable gift to those seeking healing and personal growth."
Dr. Peter A. Levine, bestselling author of Waking the Tiger and An Autobiography of Trauma, A Healing Journey

Additional Praise for Mark Wolynn and It Didn't Start with You

“Mark Wolynn does a masterful job of illuminating the ways in which our ancestors’ unresolved suffering, often unknown to us, disables us and binds us painfully to them. He gives us the tools and skills—an approach that combines understanding, imaginative dialogues, and compassionate reconnection—to free and heal ourselves.”
—James S. Gordon, MD, author of Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey Out of Depression

It Didn’t Start with You takes us a big step forward, advancing the fields of trauma therapy, mindfulness applications, and human understanding. It is a bold, creative, and compassionate work.”
—Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness

“This groundbreaking book offers a compelling understanding of inherited trauma and fresh, powerful tools for relieving its suffering. Mark Wolynn is a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey toward healing.”
—Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

“Mark Wolynn’s extraordinary book cracks the secret code of families and proves that you can go home again—once you understand how history made you. Full of life-changing stories, powerful insights, and practical tools for personal healing, It Didn't Start With You deserves a place on your bookshelf next to Alice Miller’s The Drama of the Gifted Child and Dan Siegel’s The Developing Mind. You’ll never see your family the same way again.”
—Mark Matousek, author of Ethical Wisdom

“Bridging both neuroscience and psychodynamic thinking, It Didn’t Start with You provides the reader with Mark Wolynn’s hard-earned toolbox of do-it-yourself clinical aids and provocative insights.”
—Jess P. Shatkin, MD, MPH, Vice Chair for Education at NYU Langone Medical Center’s Child Study Center and author of Child & Adolescent Mental Health

“After reading It Didn’t Start with You, I found myself immediately able to apply Mark Wolynn’s techniques with my patients and saw incredible results, in a shorter time than with traditional psychotherapeutic techniques. I encourage you to read this book. It’s truly cutting edge.”
—Alexanndra Kreps, MD

Author

© Dawn Hartman
Mark Wolynn is a leading expert on inherited family trauma. As the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he has trained thousands of clinicians and treated thousands more patients struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain, and illness. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. He has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. His articles have appeared in Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker. View titles by Mark Wolynn