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Safe

An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships

Hardcover
$30.00 US
5-1/2"W x 8-1/4"H | 14 oz | 12 per carton
On sale Oct 28, 2025 | 304 Pages | 9780593850817

A guide to fostering more security, intimacy, and peace in our relationships, and in ourselves, by the author of Anxiously Attached

The topic of attachment theory has never been hotter. The hashtag #attachmentstyle has appeared more than a billion times on social media—but going beyond simple types to uncover how you developed your unique attachment patterns and why you relate to others as you do is where the deepest insights can be revealed. In this empathic and practical guide, therapist Jessica Baum sheds light on the unprocessed attachment wounds that cause us to live in survival mode—and offers a roadmap for building safe relationships that can become the foundation for true healing.  

You’ll discover what fulfilling, joyful, secure love feels like and how to cultivate it using simple techniques that will help you move from “fight or flight” mode to a place of trust, fulfillment, and true closeness with the people you care about most.  

Drawing on the brain science behind why we tend to repeat old, painful patterns, therapist Jessica Baum shows you how to move toward relationships that provide the deeper connection, safety, and trust we all long for, in every area of our lives.
Safe is a masterful integration of neuroscience, attachment theory, and real-world healing. Jessica Baum bridges clinical insight with deep compassion, offering readers a roadmap for transforming the way they relate to themselves and others.”
--Julie Menanno, author of Secure Love


“Reading Safe felt like sitting down with a wise, compassionate friend who understands the ache of disconnection and the beauty of repair. Jessica Baum has written a roadmap for anyone yearning to feel secure, seen, and safe in their relationships.”
--Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and coauthor of Liberated Love


“A thorough and readable presentation that locates the context of wounding and healing in the ‘space-between’….We strongly recommend this WONDERFUL book to therapists and everyone who want a clear analysis of the relational dynamics of the healing journey and a clear path to achieving it.”
--Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, coauthors of Getting the Love You Want and Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space Between


“Jessica Baum blends attachment science with deep compassion to create a practical guide for nervous system healing. Safe is a must-read for anyone who struggles to feel secure in relationships or is overwhelmed by their own emotions. It offers both insight and relief, using tools grounded in polyvagal theory and neurobiology. Safe provides real strategies—not just theory.”
--Terri Cole, psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss and Too Much, and host of The Terri Cole Show


“Relationships challenge us to our core, and yet they are the foundation of our humanity. Safe breathes love and understanding as we meet ourselves and our limitations with curiosity and compassion, and ultimately move toward becoming secure.”
--Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman


“What makes Safe so powerful is its gentle depth. Jessica Baum invites us to hold our protective patterns with reverence while guiding us toward true connection. This is attachment work for people ready to reclaim their story — and their worth.”
--Dr. Ingrid Clayton, author of Fawning


“As a couples therapist, SAFE is the book I want to give my clients who struggle to feel secure in their relationships again and again. Jessica Baum makes complex attachment patterns feel not only understandable but changeable.”
--Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, author of 'Til Stress Do Us Part and I Want This to Work
Jessica Baum, LMHC, is a licensed therapist and the author of Anxiously Attached. As founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and the Conscious Relationship Group, she supports individuals and couples to form healthy, long-term relationships with online coaching and transformational courses worldwide. Born and raised in Manhattan, she now lives in West Palm Beach, Florida. View titles by Jessica Baum, LMHC

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A guide to fostering more security, intimacy, and peace in our relationships, and in ourselves, by the author of Anxiously Attached

The topic of attachment theory has never been hotter. The hashtag #attachmentstyle has appeared more than a billion times on social media—but going beyond simple types to uncover how you developed your unique attachment patterns and why you relate to others as you do is where the deepest insights can be revealed. In this empathic and practical guide, therapist Jessica Baum sheds light on the unprocessed attachment wounds that cause us to live in survival mode—and offers a roadmap for building safe relationships that can become the foundation for true healing.  

You’ll discover what fulfilling, joyful, secure love feels like and how to cultivate it using simple techniques that will help you move from “fight or flight” mode to a place of trust, fulfillment, and true closeness with the people you care about most.  

Drawing on the brain science behind why we tend to repeat old, painful patterns, therapist Jessica Baum shows you how to move toward relationships that provide the deeper connection, safety, and trust we all long for, in every area of our lives.

Praise

Safe is a masterful integration of neuroscience, attachment theory, and real-world healing. Jessica Baum bridges clinical insight with deep compassion, offering readers a roadmap for transforming the way they relate to themselves and others.”
--Julie Menanno, author of Secure Love


“Reading Safe felt like sitting down with a wise, compassionate friend who understands the ache of disconnection and the beauty of repair. Jessica Baum has written a roadmap for anyone yearning to feel secure, seen, and safe in their relationships.”
--Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and coauthor of Liberated Love


“A thorough and readable presentation that locates the context of wounding and healing in the ‘space-between’….We strongly recommend this WONDERFUL book to therapists and everyone who want a clear analysis of the relational dynamics of the healing journey and a clear path to achieving it.”
--Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, coauthors of Getting the Love You Want and Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space Between


“Jessica Baum blends attachment science with deep compassion to create a practical guide for nervous system healing. Safe is a must-read for anyone who struggles to feel secure in relationships or is overwhelmed by their own emotions. It offers both insight and relief, using tools grounded in polyvagal theory and neurobiology. Safe provides real strategies—not just theory.”
--Terri Cole, psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss and Too Much, and host of The Terri Cole Show


“Relationships challenge us to our core, and yet they are the foundation of our humanity. Safe breathes love and understanding as we meet ourselves and our limitations with curiosity and compassion, and ultimately move toward becoming secure.”
--Sheleana Aiyana, founder of Rising Woman


“What makes Safe so powerful is its gentle depth. Jessica Baum invites us to hold our protective patterns with reverence while guiding us toward true connection. This is attachment work for people ready to reclaim their story — and their worth.”
--Dr. Ingrid Clayton, author of Fawning


“As a couples therapist, SAFE is the book I want to give my clients who struggle to feel secure in their relationships again and again. Jessica Baum makes complex attachment patterns feel not only understandable but changeable.”
--Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, author of 'Til Stress Do Us Part and I Want This to Work

Author

Jessica Baum, LMHC, is a licensed therapist and the author of Anxiously Attached. As founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and the Conscious Relationship Group, she supports individuals and couples to form healthy, long-term relationships with online coaching and transformational courses worldwide. Born and raised in Manhattan, she now lives in West Palm Beach, Florida. View titles by Jessica Baum, LMHC